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make some food that's nice"

Was the reply I received when asking an elderly friend out for lunch to try a new Indian restaurant in town. I stifled a giggle; it was so wrong on many levels however she has agreed to let me take her there next week and who knows, at 86 years old and never eaten it before (so she believes) Indian may just become a fav. Like the barfi is that I give her when I make some; and the Saag. Bless.

Edited by awoftam at 6:59 pm, Tue 24 Sep

awoftam - 2019-09-24 18:57:00
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Should never be afraid of new experiences. If she doesn't like it, no big deal and she will know.
Know of someone older who won't change, just from habit. If there's not much time left, try to make the most of it.

Edited by amasser at 9:27 am, Wed 25 Sep

amasser - 2019-09-25 09:25:00
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My 90 year old Mum seems to eat hardly enough to keep a sparrow alive, however she does enjoy Chicken Korma and also Mango Lassi. :-))

245sam - 2019-09-25 14:54:00
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awoftam wrote:

make some food that's nice"

Was the reply I received when asking an elderly friend out for lunch to try a new Indian restaurant in town. I stifled a giggle; it was so wrong on many levels however she has agreed to let me take her there next week and who knows, at 86 years old and never eaten it before (so she believes) Indian may just become a fav. Like the barfi is that I give her when I make some; and the Saag. Bless.

I'm not sure that barfi embodies the full range of Indian Cuisine. I am not terribly keen on the more 'popular' or well known Indian food - Butter chicken, tikka masala, rogan josh, etc but I'll walk over hot stones for even a small taste of Southern Indian cuisine.

Edited by buzzy110 at 5:28 pm, Wed 25 Sep

buzzy110 - 2019-09-25 17:27:00
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Will never forget when I was out of town with my Mum, then in her 80s, and I took her to a cafe for lunch. Bear in mind that she usually frequented the sort of shop that had very traditional sandwich/slice/muffin sort of food. I got her a chicken panini. She looked at it suspiciously and I told her it was just like a toasted sandwich. She sniffed at it, took a bite, then said "I don't know what your father would say if he knew I was eating Chinese food". At that point I just had a quiet smile to myself and gave up!

kitty179 - 2019-09-25 18:12:00
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awoftam wrote:

make some food that's nice"

Was the reply I received when asking an elderly friend out for lunch to try a new Indian restaurant in town. I stifled a giggle; it was so wrong on many levels however she has agreed to let me take her there next week and who knows, at 86 years old and never eaten it before (so she believes) Indian may just become a fav. Like the barfi is that I give her when I make some; and the Saag. Bless.


That's a lovely thing to do, let's know how your elderly friend enjoys her Indian meal, once she knows it's Indian food.
Whether it's 'authentic' or not does it matter ...bet she loves trying something 'new'! ;o)

samanya - 2019-09-25 18:26:00
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buzzy110 wrote:

I'm not sure that barfi embodies the full range of Indian Cuisine. I am not terribly keen on the more 'popular' or well known Indian food - Butter chicken, tikka masala, rogan josh, etc but I'll walk over hot stones for even a small taste of Southern Indian cuisine.

What a strange post.............Of course Barfi doesn't 'embody' Indian cuisine; what one dish can?The people I have met from this amazingly rich and diverse land teach us much about the simplicity and complexity of food; the richness of colour and flavour - it is indescribable. I can tell you that the wonderful Punjabi people I have had stay with me lament for barfi - the food you so blithely dismiss? Which is a sweet staple for them; and I have shared my recipe, which is Punjabi in origin, with more than a few.

Be well.

Edited by awoftam at 8:30 pm, Wed 25 Sep

awoftam - 2019-09-25 20:28:00
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awoftam wrote:

What a strange post.............Of course Barfi doesn't 'embody' Indian cuisine; what one dish can?The people I have met from this amazingly rich and diverse land teach us much about the simplicity and complexity of food; the richness of colour and flavour - it is indescribable. I can tell you that the wonderful Punjabi people I have had stay with me lament for barfi - the food you so blithely dismiss? Which is a sweet staple for them; and I have shared my recipe, which is Punjabi in origin, with more than a few.

Be well.

I didn't "blithely dismiss barfi. I accept that you think that having eaten your barfi offerings, which is very sweet and lacking any of the spices or true flavours of India, means that your elderly friend had, in fact, tried Indian food. I find that debatable but it is what you believe. I have tried a wide variety of Indian food and find most of it appetising. I certainly hope you don't have any objections to my preferring the cuisine of Southern India. Even if I had Punjabi friends, I would still prefer the cuisine from further south. To me it is much more subtle, more complex and aromatic while being much less of a blunt instrument.

buzzy110 - 2019-09-26 11:26:00
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buzzy110 wrote:

I didn't "blithely dismiss barfi. I accept that you think that having eaten your barfi offerings, which is very sweet and lacking any of the spices or true flavours of India, means that your elderly friend had, in fact, tried Indian food. I find that debatable but it is what you believe. I have tried a wide variety of Indian food and find most of it appetising. I certainly hope you don't have any objections to my preferring the cuisine of Southern India. Even if I had Punjabi friends, I would still prefer the cuisine from further south. To me it is much more subtle, more complex and aromatic while being much less of a blunt instrument.

Okie dokie. Love the thinly veiled insults - a bit like a blunt instrument? Oh and don't tell me what I believe, as you have no idea.

Moving on.

Edited by awoftam at 7:01 pm, Thu 26 Sep

awoftam - 2019-09-26 18:58:00
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awoftam wrote:

What a strange post.............Of course Barfi doesn't 'embody' Indian cuisine; what one dish can?The people I have met from this amazingly rich and diverse land teach us much about the simplicity and complexity of food; the richness of colour and flavour - it is indescribable. I can tell you that the wonderful Punjabi people I have had stay with me lament for barfi - the food you so blithely dismiss? Which is a sweet staple for them; and I have shared my recipe, which is Punjabi in origin, with more than a few.

Be well.

Luv Barfi, care to share your recipe with like minded people, pls.

nauru - 2019-09-26 19:07:00
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awoftam wrote:

Okie dokie. Love the thinly veiled insults - a bit like a blunt instrument? Oh and don't tell me what I believe, as you have no idea.

Moving on.

So thin skinned. They aren't insults. If you tried Southern Indian cuisine you would understand that there is a difference. I really did not intend to cause insult but I see you are determined to take offence anyway.

buzzy110 - 2019-09-27 15:32:00
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I got my 80 (now in her 90's) MIL to start eating Indian. Now when I am at her place she has to have Indian food at least once. Could I say barfi is very Indian along with Jalebi, gulab jamun and laddoo. If you go more traditional then there is Pakora/Bhajia, Siena, murku, sev, bhuja. There are so many varieties of it. However can I add that butter chicken, chicken tikka is very Western version of Indian food as I try to explain to my dietitian who thinks all Indian food is fatty because we add cream to everything. Traditional Indian food is not cream based. I did not know what butter chicken was till I moved to NZ and had never heard of Chicken Tikka either. It was very interesting visiting an Indian restaurant for the first time in NZ. Food can be coconut cream based. Meat and dairy is not be to mixed together as my parents believe and they will not eat any meat dishes with dairy in it. Indian food varies from different states. I love south Indian food. Dosa and Idly is my favourite. Food from Punjab is different from Gujrat to Rajisthani food.

Edited by marcs at 2:20 am, Sat 28 Sep

marcs - 2019-09-28 02:20:00
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Anyboby else like me?, cant stand any of the above?

nzshooter01 - 2019-10-13 15:24:00
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My great aunt was 86 and said "I have never eaten yoghurt, and I am not going to start now".
She died happy, and having never eaten yoghurt.

duckmoon - 2019-10-13 21:04:00
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My late father was a huge bread eater, and refused to eat any bread other than white. He said the "new-fangled" breads, such as Vogel's, had the texture of fingernail clippings.

kaddiew - 2019-10-14 08:42:00
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kaddiew wrote:

My late father was a huge bread eater, and refused to eat any bread other than white. He said the "new-fangled" breads, such as Vogel's, had the texture of fingernail clippings.

I have to agree with him about Vogels.
Was described to me "the stuff that fell to the bottom of the bird cage". Will never understand the hype.
But only use white to make cheese rolls.

bernie184 - 2019-10-14 09:08:00
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nzshooter01 wrote:

Anyboby else like me?, cant stand any of the above?

No. Hot and sweet for me. love a good curry, and love to make my own from scratch.

rainrain1 - 2019-10-14 10:47:00
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Indian food is great for vegans and so delicous.

Edited by frances1266 at 1:55 pm, Mon 14 Oct

frances1266 - 2019-10-14 13:54:00
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nzshooter01 wrote:

Anyboby else like me?, cant stand any of the above?


I can tolerate a butter chicken, but apart from that, I can’t eat it. We all know why the food is so heavily spiced don’t we?

golfdiver - 2019-10-15 08:07:00
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marcs wrote:

I got my 80 (now in her 90's) MIL to start eating Indian. Now when I am at her place she has to have Indian food at least once. Could I say barfi is very Indian along with Jalebi, gulab jamun and laddoo. If you go more traditional then there is Pakora/Bhajia, Siena, murku, sev, bhuja. There are so many varieties of it. However can I add that butter chicken, chicken tikka is very Western version of Indian food as I try to explain to my dietitian who thinks all Indian food is fatty because we add cream to everything. Traditional Indian food is not cream based. I did not know what butter chicken was till I moved to NZ and had never heard of Chicken Tikka either. It was very interesting visiting an Indian restaurant for the first time in NZ. Food can be coconut cream based. Meat and dairy is not be to mixed together as my parents believe and they will not eat any meat dishes with dairy in it. Indian food varies from different states. I love south Indian food. Dosa and Idly is my favourite. Food from Punjab is different from Gujrat to Rajisthani food.

Indian food is very diverse and it's one of the things I love about it - aside from the depth of flavour. Dosa is divine, and I am also partial to Gujrat - I am lucky enough to have many friends from that wonderful land - so have been treated to having food from the various regions cooked with love and served in friendship it is something I treasure. Which is one of the reasons I started cooking it myself; with their help initially. I remember one young lad walking around the side of my house, huge smile on his face saying 'I can smell the dinner; it smells like my mother's'. A Bigger compliment I could not have had.

awoftam - 2019-10-15 20:12:00
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nauru wrote:

Luv Barfi, care to share your recipe with like minded people, pls.

500g cashew nuts
6 cardamom pods
200g powdered milk
2 T ghee
1/4 t ground cloves
230 g castor sugar
2 sheets varak (I use edible silver balls and pistachio for decoration)

Dry roast cashew nuts in frying pan until browned all over. Cool and chop with a knife or in a food processor.
Remove cardamom seeds and crush in a pestle and mortar
Line 26 x 17cm shallow pan with baking paper
Combine the milk power and cashew nuts in a large bowl and rub in ghee until completely combines. Mix in cardamom and cloves.

Combine the sugar and 250 mils of water in a heavy based saucepan and heat over a low heat until the sugar melts. Bring to boil and simmer 5 - 7 minutes to make a sugar syrup.

QUICKLY stir the syrup into the cashew mixture and spread into the tin. Smooth with a buttered spatula. Decorate with the silver balls and pistachios, leave to cool then cut into diamonds.

I hope you enjoy.

awoftam - 2019-10-15 20:23:00
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Oh I miss Jalebi. I love them. Haven't found a restaurant here that does them. I guess because they're street food.

benthecat - 2019-10-16 20:59:00
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