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| 4801 | Cold easterly in Christchurch today which matches my mood :-p Got a call from Dad in the rest home saying he wants to move out of this one and it just his negative nature as the home has been top notch compared to the last two. As he doesn't bother to control his bad behaviour I think that his next step will be to a dementia unit where they are more used to bizarre behaviour. Sadly all he wants to do is die and yet he keeps living very poorly. Quite stressful for me and my sister, and for me particularly as I have decided to look for another job and it's hard to do this when a lot of energy goes towards dealing with Dad. sumstyle - 2011-10-01 13:23:00 |
| 4802 | sumstyle wrote: Sumstyle, earthangel4 - 2011-10-01 13:34:00 |
| 4803 | Thanks for your comforting words from experience earthangel - this home is fantastic, so it is distressing to hear he does not see how kind and caring the staff are to him. We think they are amazing! Edited by sumstyle at 1:40 pm, Sat 1 Oct sumstyle - 2011-10-01 13:39:00 |
| 4804 | Please, may I say it is refreshing to read of a close relative understanding it is their loved Dads behaviour, so often we read or hear of unhappy residents who have family automatically place the situation back on the rest home.I hope he settles and is upgraded to the Care and meds he maybe requiring. Hugs...I know soon I will be crossing this path. jbsouthland - 2011-10-01 13:48:00 |
| 4805 | JB and EA - thank you both for your words - I read out your posts to my sister and we feel we are right to be placing our confidence in the rest home staff. sumstyle - 2011-10-02 20:57:00 |
| 4806 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-02 21:27:00 |
| 4807 | Thanks cooke - I feel for any person in a rest home who doesn't have someone available to advocate on their behalf, because it is very tiring standing up for your own rights, however in this case it's harder having to be firm with Dad and pointing out that his perception of his treatment is likely to be wrong. I think he's going do-lally. sumstyle - 2011-10-03 07:34:00 |
| 4808 | Sumstyle,thinking of you,and just know you and your sister have done the right thing,and like you have said,it is sad with the ones that have no family. earthangel4 - 2011-10-03 08:03:00 |
| 4809 | Earthangel - there are lots of activities for my dad to be involved in at his resthome but he chooses not to. Also he has kind friends and relatives who visit him often and who offer to take him out for drives - but he doesn't want to go. Then he heaves big sighs over the dullness of his life and wishes he wasn't in a resthome - it is very frustrating. However I feel very confident when I walk out the door after a visit that he is in the best place for him with people who really do care and who, unfortunately, have to put up with his bad attitude. And although many will think I am a terrible child for saying it - I am sincerely glad it isn't me looking after him full time because as much as I love him, he would drive me to my grave! supersapper - 2011-10-03 09:03:00 |
| 4810 | i worked part time in an old folks home many years ago and enjoyed the company of many of them, but some were difficult ...it was in their nature and you couldnt change them or make them happy. My grandparents were all great people apart from my mums mum...she was an unhappy person and it showed, never had a good word to say about anyone Edited by motorbo at 9:12 am, Mon 3 Oct motorbo - 2011-10-03 09:12:00 |
| 4811 | Sadly that is often the case of the Elderly the brain changes ...but some have such a marvellous attitude they make the place light up and contribute so much .The key to the " less happy " is as a Support worker find out their lifestyle...families can help here...these people have had a youthful life once,full of interests and activities.We encourage a short life story written ... so the carers can have an understanding of the younger " Mrs Jones ". My partner has in the space of just over a year incorporated changes that initially some staff were opposed too..eg Breakfast no longer happens at the Dining Room at a certain timeslot...can be in bed,at a table in their room and or still at The Dining room.. ( one married couple love that meal time in their room together) or at much later hour .In retirement who wants to be regimented so early in the day...same as having to" have" your showers,vacumning in rooms on a Sunday now is not happening if residents don't wish it ...allowing Residents a say hence regular residents meetings... back to home baking not large slices/ bikkies brought in that no one ate... if some are slightly burnt ..they love it ..something to rib about lol.. Residents using Toilets that say Visitors ..offering an alcoholic drink to a group sitting chatting together ..not just at happy Hour time...a lovely cat adopted from SPCA now happily residing in the Dementia Unit...letting those who believe in Alternate type Meds have them...and so on. Families are thrilled the place still runs to Health & Safety etc but more relaxed.first and foremost it is the Residents Home...and I truely believe a Male Reg Nurse in Management is a great thing , esp for the male residents....and many of the ladies love him...! Edited by jbsouthland at 10:56 am, Mon 3 Oct jbsouthland - 2011-10-03 10:53:00 |
| 4812 | This message was deleted. grannymum - 2011-10-03 14:42:00 |
| 4813 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-03 14:44:00 |
| 4814 | ditto, hope all is okay with them, i have been thinking of them motorbo - 2011-10-03 15:00:00 |
| 4815 | ...supersapper is my sister by the way - not me posting under another user name... sumstyle - 2011-10-03 21:36:00 |
| 4816 | Just going to blow the whistle on "living-in-paradise Winnie231". Drove over to see her on Sunday to find her rugged up in work boots, thick jersey and jeans sheltering from the pouring rain in the Marahau Cafe! It was nice to catch up with you Rae. I think we must have struck Nelson's worst weather of the year but still had a very enjoyable long weekend - particularly as daughter heard today she has the job she really wanted for next year. Too much food and too much wine though, so a week of salad and abstinence coming up now. greerg - 2011-10-03 23:05:00 |
| 4817 | Oh Glen - how could you? LOL! Edited by winnie231 at 8:04 am, Tue 4 Oct winnie231 - 2011-10-04 08:03:00 |
| 4818 | I do admit it Rae - even in the rain it is a fantastic spot but boy it can rain! It's wet back here in Christchurch today too but not with the same intense "sheets of water" effect that we had yesterday in Nelson. greerg - 2011-10-04 10:13:00 |
| 4819 | I'm just back from a night out in Takaka ... miss 14 performed in a teen theatre production which was well worth the drive over the hill for. The play was based on the Heavenly Creatures story about Juliet Hulme & Pauline Parker ... they were 2 very disturbed girls! winnie231 - 2011-10-05 10:30:00 |
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| 4825 | A big bump back from page 2! winnie231 - 2011-10-07 20:00:00 |
| 4826 | u must be massivly fit now winnie,....am jealous ha ha....got a job interview next week ...fingers xed i just wanna be working again motorbo - 2011-10-07 20:29:00 |
| 4827 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-07 21:19:00 |
| 4828 | Good morning all,hav not been in of late so busy packing and cleaning. earthangel4 - 2011-10-08 06:47:00 |
| 4829 | earthangel I think you'll still have time to do strawberry plants - that's the good thing about the South Island being a bit behind the times! Dad is muddling along, but making regular comments about things being stolen from his room and insisting it is staff doing it. My sister is so good about visiting and getting his thinking back on track. Back to you - the garden will be a great thing to nuture, so satsifying :-) sumstyle - 2011-10-08 08:49:00 |
| 4830 | hope there wasnt too much damage cookes....how exciting for you EA to finally move somewhere nice ..do the garden its so rewarding.my son is a keen gardener....nothing bets produce from your own garden motorbo - 2011-10-08 09:19:00 |
| 4831 | Everyone in ChCh OK? That was a really long loud rumble. greerg - 2011-10-09 21:18:00 |
| 4832 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-09 21:22:00 |
| 4833 | greerg wrote:
Coffee spilt all over the carpet - but that was the only casualty. Definitely thought it was winding up for something even more spectacular - so loud. sumstyle - 2011-10-09 22:23:00 |
| 4834 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-10 09:39:00 |
| 4835 | cookessentials wrote: Amen thinking of you all xxxx earthangel4 - 2011-10-10 09:53:00 |
| 4836 | Hi there from Christchurch, I'm sorry everybody ... I haven't posted for ages, but have been looking in occasionally. I have had such a lot on my plate of late. All fine here, albeit - very, very shaken. I got one heck of a fright, and it did go on for (what seemed) like a long time. I don't feel like my nerves have gone back to normal yet. How's everybody else ? :-) ps- had a cat glued to my lap for the rest of the night ! 2halls - 2011-10-10 15:45:00 |
| 4837 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-10 15:48:00 |
| 4838 | This message was deleted. grannymum - 2011-10-10 15:52:00 |
| 4839 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-10 16:17:00 |
| 4840 | i do feel for you all down there, and dont think i would cope well, hope your nerves recover swiftly 2halls wrote: motorbo - 2011-10-10 16:54:00 |
| 4841 | 2halls wrote:
2halls! How good to hear from you. I struggled up your hill last week in the rain, hard work. My dog wasn't happy with the EQ last night (thus the spilt coffee on the carpet) but the cat was remarkably calm. sumstyle - 2011-10-10 22:34:00 |
| 4842 | It was a nasty shake. Georgie woke up so I knew it was over 5. No further damage I can see. Have been busy getiing the house ready for the packers at the end of the month when I have to move out for 3-4 weeks. I am panicking I won't get it done. I have a Christmas cake in the oven. Alsion Holst's easy mix rum and raisin. I accidently started it at 180c rather than 150c, but caught it after 20 mins - hope it is ok. Ah well - back to the sorting... calista - 2011-10-11 10:54:00 |
| 4843 | calista wrote: Thinking of you at this time,you look after your health. earthangel4 - 2011-10-11 11:45:00 |
| 4844 | This message was deleted. elliehen - 2011-10-11 11:49:00 |
| 4845 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-11 12:45:00 |
| 4846 | elliehen wrote:
There's one here too Ellie ... I love listening to them :) winnie231 - 2011-10-11 15:18:00 |
| 4847 | Good Morning all,up early this morning. earthangel4 - 2011-10-12 07:04:00 |
| 4848 | This message was deleted. cookessentials - 2011-10-12 07:10:00 |
| 4849 | hi EA, thanks for thinking of me...esp when you have so much on your mind, interview is tomorrow, funny i applied thinking if i get it its a job, now i look at it more and i really want it...as well as need it, being unemployed is too much for me...i will admit alot of my self worth comes from being employed.....anyways back to you...how exciting a new home and i hope no more damp times for you HUGS....oh fabulous Cookes...i was planning on my first overseas trip in 20 odd years then losing my job i cant spend the money..oh well i got the passport ha ha,,be like the last one i got, it will gather dust. have a good day all even if its bleak out your window too motorbo - 2011-10-12 10:16:00 |
| 4850 | Hi all, winnie231 - 2011-10-12 10:18:00 |
